Resources

At a time when you can feel so alone, it is nice to have resources available that provide some comfort. On this resource page, we included books, websites, blogs, and organizations that are all trying to help ease the pain of losing a baby. The book section has a downloadable PDF document to find books at various websites. Some of the websites listed below also have online gift shops that carry books in addition to many of the ones mentioned in our books section on this page. Under our websites section, we included a little paragraph about the site to see if it would be helpful to your specific situation.  

Websites

Listed below are a variety of websites that can assist with the loss your baby. Many of the organizations, if not all, below, were created with the loss of a baby or child. We hope that you can find more resources and support at these sites.

Loss Doulas International, www.lossdoulasinternational.com

If you would like to talk with someone about your loss, immediately, there are Baby Loss Doulas nationwide, who can help you. Baby Loss Doulas are trained to help create a respectful and thoughtful birth plan and to be companions to the mother and family experiencing the death of a baby during pregnancy. They can offer guidance, help with informed decision-making, memory creation, and will share appropriate resources. Please visit the Loss Doulas International website to locate someone who can help. They can work with you via email or phone, if one is not within your location. Loss Doulas International is also mentioned on our Support page, under "Immediate Support and Help".

Heaven's Gain, www.heavensgain.com

If you are in need of a baby casket, of any size, Heaven's Gain can help you. Founded in February 2008, Heaven's Gain can overnight a baby casket, urn, or vault to anywhere nationwide. Please visit their website to see their selection, and send them an email. Your email is answered promptly. Books and memorials can also be purchased at their site. Also, other helpful resources are provided such as general practical information, miscarrying at home, and customs and funerals. More information can be found at their website, and are also included in our Support page under "Funeral and Ceremony Planning".

Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep, www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org

Founded in April 2005, NILMDTS has a mission to introduce remembrance photography to parents suffering the loss of a baby with a free gift of professional portraiture. Photographers for this organization are located worldwide. More information can be found at their website above, and are also mentioned on our  Support page, under "Immediate Support and Help".

Angel Pics, www.babyangelpics.com

Since 1992, Hollywood Fotofix has been restoring and retouching photographs for families. The AngelPics Project began in 1998, when a couple brought the President of Hollywood Fotofix, Mark Long, a photo of their stillborn child, and asked if there was "anything he could do"; he did help by removing bruises and tubes, to make a tragic photo a nice portrait of their baby. When asked how much they owed he said, "I can't charge for this," and the AngelPics Project was born. They provide the same service to other families in the same situation.

Babies Remembered, www.babiesremembered.org

Sherokee Ilse has been an advocate for pregnancy and infant loss for many years. Having experienced an ectopic pregnancy (Bryna), a miscarriage at 12 weeks (Marama), and a stillbirth (Brennan), herself, she understands the many layers to grief and loss. One of her websites, Babies Remembered, is a place where one can go to receive support and guidance during the initial days following the loss of a baby, and in the days that follow. Such resources as - Help Now, Recent Loss, Father's Grief, Miscarriage, Subsequent Pregnancy, How to Help, and Take Action, can be very helpful. And there is also an eShop on the site, where you can purchase a variety of books related to loss. More information can be found at the website listed above, or on our Support page, under "Immediate Support and Help".

The Tears Foundation, www.thetearsfoundation.org

Founded in 2002, in Washington State, The Tears Foundation currently has twelve chapters nationwide. They seek to compassionately lift a financial burden from families who have lost a baby by providing funds to assist with the cost of burial or cremation services. More grants and the application process can be found at their site under "Assistance". They also have a "Rock and Walk" which is a walk to let families know that they are not alone, to raise funds to support these families, and to build a community awareness about pregnancy and infant loss.

Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope, www.facesofloss.com

Founded recently, experiencing the loss of her own daughter, Stevie Joy, who was stillborn on May 8, 2010. The bereaved mother, Kristin, sought out to create a website that would help allow others to share their stories of loss and to provide reassurance to others that they are not alone. One can also share their own story at Faces of Loss, under "Submit a Story". Other helpful information can be found under, "Resources", "Real Advice", and "Friends and Family".

Special Delivery - A Place of Support, www.specialdeliverybook.org

Created through the loss of her daughter, Macy, to Trisomy 18, Melanie wanted to have a place where one could come for support, find helpful resources, and request an electronic or board book version of "Special Delivery", a children's story that she and her sister, Melissa, wrote and designed together. This beautiful "Special Delivery" book is geared toward living children, to help them understand the loss of a sibling, in very simple terms. On the website, there is a "Memorial Gallery" where you can share your own story, and post a picture of your baby. Melanie also posts journal-like entries under "News".

A Place to Remember, www.aplacetoremember.com

An organization created by Tim Nelson, a bereaved father himself. A Place to Remember has many different items that you can buy in the beginning days of loss, and the days that follow to remember your sweet baby. There are a wide variety of books, gowns and blankets for your baby, sheet music and cd's for funeral and ceremonies, jewelry and ornaments to remember your baby, and also cards for friends and family to send. You can also remember your baby on the "Remembrance Book" link, where you can write their baby's name and also include a story to remember your child. Also, if you have a Facebook account, you can sign up to receive updates from A Place to Remember. Items that are send include, news articles, events, and other bereaved parents' stories. This website is also listed under our Books section, in the PDF document, which is found on this page.

Grief Watch, www.griefwatch.com

Pat Schwiebert is the founder of this non-profit organization that is located in Portland, Oregon. Their mission is "two-fold: first, to offer spiritual, emotional and other support to persons who are grieving, and second, to assist organized efforts which address the systemic injustices within our society which are the source of grief for persons who are poor and marginalized." Grief Watch has some wonderful resources for all losses, including the loss of a baby. At the site, you can purchase books, such as the popular, "Tear Soup", and the touching book for living children, "We Were Gonna Have a Baby, But We Had an Angel Instead", both written by Pat Schwiebert herself, hand-made ceramic hearts and angels, cards, and much more. Also, you can read and subscribe to their monthly newsletter.

Baby Loss Comfort, www.babylosscomfort.com  

Located in Oregon, Baby Loss Comfort is a place where you can remember your baby, and find resources. On the "Remembering Baby" page, you can write your story, a message, or a poem for your loved baby. Under "Grief Resources" you are able to navigate information specific to your needs under categories such as: Grief (in general), Miscarriage, Infertility, Full Term Loss and Stillbirth, SIDS, and much more.

Cornerstone of Hope, www.cornerstoneofhope.org

Located in Independence, OH, outside of Cleveland, Mark and Christi Tripodi created and founded Cornerstone of Hope in remembrance of their son, Bobby, who died at three years of age to bacterial meningitis. They wanted to have a place for anyone that was grieving the loss of their loved one. They are dedicated to providing support, education, and hope for the grieving. Guided by Christian values of compassion and service, they welcome and serve all seeking support. Cornerstone of Hope also has a grieving center in Columbus, OH. COH is also mentioned under our Support page for group and individual counseling.

Missing Grace, www.missinggrace.org  

Located in Rogers, Minnesota, outside of Minneapolis, Missing Grace was founded by Candy McVicar with the loss of her daughter, Grace, at 32+ weeks. Missing Grace is a grieving center in Minnesota that provides resources and support to families that have experienced a pregnancy loss, infant loss, infertility, or adoption challenges. They provide totes and baskets that are care packages to local hospitals. You can order a care tote or care basket from their website which can be overnighted to the hospital or sent to the parent's home.

October 15th, www.october15th.com  

October 15th was created to support, educate, and bring awareness for those who are suffering or may know someone who has suffered a miscarriage, an ectopic pregnancy, a stillbirth, or the loss of an infant. October 15th is a special day of remembrance for Pregnancy and Infant Loss, and is every year on the same day. Robyn Bear is the creator of this organization and has suffered six miscarriages herself. This website also includes resources, an eShop, and an ongoing blog where you can comment and write yourself.