There are many ways that you can honor and remember your baby from your home. Here are some suggestions of things that you could do, and they may cause you to think of ways not mentioned here:
Plant a garden or a special tree. Here you can find special flowers such as your baby's birth month flower, or a flower with unique meaning to you. Also, The Rock Pile has graciously supported our new project titled: Michael's Tree Project in memory of our Michael. At their Avon, OH location you can purchase a remembrance tree for your baby or babies at a discounted rate of 20% off, year-round plus free delivery locally. Please contact our nonprofit, emily's gift of hope, for more details.
Visit and find special momentoes to remember your loved baby. Many greenhouses and landscaping companies carry a good selection of angel statues. In the Cleveland area, The Rock Pile in Avon, OH, has a good amount of angel statues to add to your garden. They also have stones that you can personalize. Also, church stores have angel statues, prayer cards, pictures and much more. In the Cleveland area, The Galilee Bookstore, on the grounds of The Church of St. Clarence North Olmsted carries all of these mentioned, and much more.
Have a balloon release. This can be done from your home, cemetery, or a place that is close to your heart, on special anniversaries, due dates, or just because.
Create something to celebrate and remember your baby on their anniversary, or during the holidays. Such as baking cupcakes on their birthday or special day, or making an angel ornament around Christmas.
Place a remembrance photo, poem, or a special message in your local paper on an anniversary, or just because. This can usually be found in the obituary section of the newspaper.
Send out birth announcements. This can be filled with mixed emotions, if you baby died in utero, or shortly there after. You could even include your baby's ultrasound picture on it, or another picture that you feel comfortable in sharing. The people you send this birth announcement to may be even a smaller list than you imagined when the thought of birth announcements first entered your thoughts while pregnant, and that is okay. If you are worried about the customer service end of it, while processing, just let them know what you are doing ahead of time. We have had pictures of our baby, who died in utero, reprinted at local stores. They were very kind, and you could feel their sincerity and sympathy with our experience and processing our pictures.
Purchase a brick at a garden/park or church with your baby's name engraved on it. Sometimes one does not have the baby's remains, so this gives you a special place to "be" with your beloved baby. You could also buy a brick or stone and have it engraved for a garden at your own home. Also, something to keep in mind, if you do not have a place at your own home to recognize your baby, many cemeteries, if not all have a baby's section. Sometimes within in this area, there is a special dedication memorial or monument to recognize all babies that have died. Also, some hospitals, mostly Catholic, bury all babies remains, even if the parents decline that they want to take their baby's remains home with them. Contact your hospital, if years later, this is your situation. They are usually buried in the baby section of cemeteries. Just know that not all hospitals do this.
Hospice of Western Reserve, in the Cleveland, OH area, has a beautiful place called, Vista Walk, for you to "be with your baby". Here, you can purchase a brick or garden furniture, to have your baby's name inscribed. This area overlooks Lake Erie, and is open anytime for meditation, reflection, and remembrance. For more information, call: 216.383.3712. Or if you would like to visit the walk and gardens: David Simpson Hospice House, 300 East 185th Street, Cleveland, OH 44119.
Request a mass to be said for your baby. Many churches have almost all days available for you to reserve for loved ones. You could also have a candle lit at church or the cemetery on special days.
Volunteer to do something special for your baby. If you know how to sew or knit, many hospitals have volunteers that knit all sizes in hats for babies, no matter how old your baby is. Or if there is a local fundraiser baby-related, you could volunteer your time.
Start something. Sometimes going through this sad experience can bring with it something positive. You may realize that there is a need for bereaved parents that is not being met. Whether it is making something to remember our babies, starting a fundraiser yourself, or even writing a book, ideas may come to you.
Donate money to a special place close to your heart. There are many websites listed on our site that are very appreciative of help. Please be sure to check out the websites listed to the right, "Help Other Causes". Our Resources page also, have numerous places to support.